One Sunday morning I rolled out of bed, threw my hair in a top knot, and headed downstairs to find my husband and my teenage son making breakfast together.
So cute, right?
Wrong.
They were standing in the kitchen with their spatulas, fighting about about the best way to pour pancakes on the griddle.
This was not a first. This kind of nonsense between them had been going on for years, and I was tired of it.
Something had to be done.
I jumped right in the middle of it and told my husband how ridiculous it was that he was arguing with a child. Then I told my son to go up to his room and cool off until he could change his tone.
For the next 10 minutes I judged and berated my husband for constantly arguing with our son. I told him how frustrating it was to hear them bicker and quarrel all the time. I told him he needed to grow up and stop acting like a kid.
When it was all over, the tension was high and I felt terrible. I wondered if there would ever be a time we would stop arguing. I went up to my office and sat there with my hands over my face. I felt so defeated.
Now what?
I got out a piece of paper and started writing down all the thoughts swimming around in my head.
Why did this happen so often?
Would it ever stop?
When was my husband going “figure it out”?
I remembered something I’d heard earlier that week.
“NEGATIVE EMOTION IS THE FASTEST INDICATOR THAT YOU ARE HOLDING ON TO A LIE.”
This one sentence stopped me in my tracks.
If it was true, what was the lie I was holding on to?
I started writing, and kept writing, until the entire page was full.
Got it! I figured it out.
I wanted more peace in my home, but through my actions I was creating the exact opposite. I was creating more contention.
I was the one.
And you know what’s so great about that?
When we realize we’re the ones with the problem, we can also be the ones with the solution.
What are the lies you tell yourself that are causing a problem?
Are you brave enough to write them down? Are you brave enough to be the solution to your own problem?
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photo KRISTINA FLOUR
