Who didn’t love the Oprah Winfrey Show? The 55 minutes of our day where we could sit back, relax, and tune out the entire world. Oprah surprised us, enlightened us, and inspired us to live our best lives.
Oprah had her fans. The people who loved her, watched her show every so often, and moved on with their lives.
Then she had super-fans. The people who waited for the sacred 3 o’clock hour, tuned in to every minute of the show, and immediately called their best friends for a recap.
That would be me.
This might sounds crazy, but there were many years I truly believed Oprah and I were friends.
Best friends.
We laughed together, cried together, surprised audiences with cars together, and hosted her “favorite things show” every Christmas, together.
I loved Oprah so much. And I knew she loved me too.
But here’s the reality. Oprah had no idea I was alive. She had no idea I spent over a thousand hours watching her, studying, her, feeling so connected to her.
How was it possible for me to feel this way about someone who had NO idea I existed?
Because the way we feel about other people has NOTHING to do with them, and everything to do with us.
I’ll give you a minute to wrap your head around that.
It’s true.
Our connection to other people has nothing to do with what they think about us. It has everything to do with what WE think about us, and what WE think about them.
How is this possible?
Well, if it’s possible to feel connected to someone you haven’t met, then it must be possible to feel connected to anyone.
EVEN if they don’t feel the same connection toward you.
Is your mind blown?
Let’s take those same thoughts and apply them to your husband, your sister-in-law, your co-worker, and your mom.
You can choose to feel connected to all of these people, even if they choose not to feel connected to you.
I hear your questions.
Why would you want to feel connected to someone who doesn’t want to connect with you?
Easy.
Because you’re the one who gets to feel the connection. And connection feels AMAZING.
It might be hard to wrap your head around this. It kind of blows my mind too.
It definitely doesn’t happen overnight, and it takes some thought management, but all of it is figureoutable…..and the benefits are worth it.
I’d love to teach you how to apply the connection concept to the most difficult relationships in your life.
Are you in?
PS. Because this story has a really happy ending, I’ll tell you I finally got the chance to meet Oprah. I had the privilege of being a guest on her show and we spent my 30th birthday together. Would it surprise you if I told you she is equally as obsessed with me? Haha.
